6 Serious first date mistakes you need to avoid


You have met a lady, asked her out and she has agreed. By asking her out on a first day, I believe you would like more dates. Therefore, the first date should be successful to stimulate her interest in subsequent dates. Sometimes you screw up so badly that she regrets ever going on the date with you. That means she will never consent to another date with you. That is a bad experience that you definitely didn’t wish for. There are simple mistakes that you commonly do on first date that makes it to fail terribly. You need to avoid these mistakes when on a first date.

1. Talking about your ex

Never talk about your ex unless you are asked directly. Should you even be asked, give specific , brief and direct answers. Do not go into so many stories painting the whole picture of your ex. It will only make you look like you haven’t moved on. If possible, do not ask your date about her ex too. You are still strangers and thus should not be meddling into each other’s personal affairs.

2. Eating or drinking too much

Remember you are on a first date and not partying or clubbing. Getting drunk on a first date doubles your chances of looking like a fool. This is a major red flag and turn down. Drinking too much also shows you are nervous or out of control. I always advise people to stick to a maximum of two drinks on a first date. Eating too much will paint you as greedy. Do not order a whole menu. To slow yourself down, alternate your drinks and food. Swallow your food before opening your mouth to speak. Always have table manners at your fingertips.

3. Checking or using your phone

This makes you come across as bored or distracted, neither of which is appealing to the person you are with. Your date needs your undivided attention especially on a first date. I prefer keeping my phone on silent mode in my pocket or entirely switching it off.  If you must check your phone, apologize, explain why, and do it quickly. Alternatively, just excuse yourself to the restroom and do it there.

4. Bragging

I know you really want to impress her and make her fall for you instantly. However, bragging about what you have, where you live and what you do is a bad idea. The center of your conversation should be her and not you. Ladies want attention and you should no doubt give them. Be the guide but not the main topic. Avoid as much as possible to talk much about yourself. Let the conversation be mutual and enjoyable.

5. Being mean and cheap

Plan a date that fits your budget and does not strain you so much. If you cannot afford a date in a fancy hotel, try an outdoor date. Make sure your pocket is comfortable. Nevertheless, do not be deliberately mean. If you are cheap with money, you are probably cheap with emotions and possibly in bed too. Let your date have the privilege to order whatever she so desires. Do not patronize her on what meals and dessert to order. Furthermore, don’t take her to a cheap restaurant and yet you can afford a better place for that date.

6. Being too serious so quickly

Some people are just too funny. They are on a first date yet they want full commitment. You are on a first date and yet he already wants you to talk to his parents, siblings or friends. Take things slowly. Nothing good has ever come out of rushing. Even though you are excited that your date is progressing perfectly, tone down and keep your emotions in check.

After a date, it is your responsibility to ensure she gets home safely. I advise you to take her home after the date if it is okay with her. However, do not force yourself into her house. Just get her to her place, let her enter her house, say goodbye and leave. Should she invite you in, do not overstay nor want to spend a night there.


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