We enter into relationships hoping it will make the best out of us. Relationships are meant to be mutually beneficial and supportive. People invest their time, finances and emotions that should not be taken for granted. When a woman loves, she loves for real, they say. That can be true or not. When a man loves, he too can love for real or just toy around with a lady’s feelings. Basically, love is supposed to last forever. It should be a source of happiness, peace of mind, comfort and growth. However, sometimes the happy after we hope for never comes. For some reasons the relationship hit some rocks and you either stay and work things out or walk out. Therefore, you need to know the red flags. Here are indicators that prove his love for you is no more.
1. Sudden reduction or no communication at all
This is one of the first signs that your boyfriend is really beginning to lose his love for you. When a guy is in love, he will communicate frequently. If he stops replying to your texts or takes too long to reply then something is wrong somewhere. Even when he replies, his answers are so casual and brief. Romantic names like honey, sweetheart, my love, darling, beb starts to disappear from his messages. This is the moment when he is out with his friends and he gets a text from you, a frown appears on his face. For the start, he will be making up excuses for taking too long or not replying. After sometime, he will shun from answering your texts or picking your calls completely.
2. Starts asking for space
Do you remember how he wanted you besides him always when the love was young and fresh? Remember how he wanted you to spend all your weekends and holidays with him? And now he wants space to be alone or with his friends. He no longer wants to host you for weekends and makes no plans for holidays. Asking for space is not bad but it depends on the circumstances leading to it and reasons for it. Calmly ask him why he wants more space. If he says something specific and reasonable, accept and get over it. But if he says something vague and has no clear reasons why he suddenly wants you to take a step back, his love for you is in the dead bed.
3. He is no longer affectionate
When there is no hand holding, no flirting, no kissing, no cuddling or affectionate embrace, my dear his love is gone. Once his feelings for you are over, it becomes hard to be affectionate. Though he may try to pretend or force them but you will clearly feel the difference. Even making love becomes a major issue. There is no foreplay and should it be there, there is no passion in it. This is a really bad sign because it is practically impossible to date with no affection. If you get to this point then know it is time to say goodbye to this relationship.
4. He stops opening up to you
His life that used to be an open book to you now it is closed. He used to share ideas, plans, exciting news, emotions, and share the details of his days. And now he keeps all that to himself. You have literally nothing to talk about. He does not show any interest in how you are doing. Now, he is giving you one word answers and downplaying the existence of eventfulness.
The guy who used to care much about your happiness now does not bother with it. He used to factor you in his future plans and now you listen careful but your name is nowhere in his future roadmap. When you are together, he is busy with his phone or glued to the television. At this point, you have to decide if you want to give it a second chance and go down fighting or throw in the towel and move on.